Why Trying So Hard to ‘Perform’ Kills the Mood (and How to Fix It) It’s a moment many of us know all too well. Things are heating up, the connection is there, but a voice starts whispering in the back of your mind. Am I doing this right? Do they like this? What if I can’t stay hard? What if I can’t come? In an instant, you’re no longer in the moment. You’re in your head, a spectator in your own sex life, frantically trying to manage a performance. And in that moment of trying, the very thing you want Continue reading